I posted this small not on Facebook

‘Being alone is an interesting and very human process. It forces me to discover who I really and truly am at a much more subconscious level. I ask myself… Are you happy? Are you sad? Do you need a partner? Can you be alone and happy? These are the kind of questions and more I have been forced to ask myself. This is about me and what I want and need for my life…’

Think about this….

You are with people all of your young life, then as you get older your almost always with others,  family, friends and more. You get married or you are in a long term relationship and again you are always with someone. You are never alone and rarely get time to think, exercise your own mind and own way of being… BE – IN.

Then suddenly for the first time in your life after a relationship breakdown… suddenly you are ALONE… A-LONE.

If you are not used to this, it can have massive shock on your system and does have a huge shock on most peoples system.

The void.

The biggest challenge is suddenly a life that was full has been emptied and left a gap. A huge gap. This is the void.

Your initial instinct is to fill the gap right away. It’s panic, fear and more rolled into one. The tight knot is in your chest. The sleepless nights. The bed with you on one side and no one on the other. Feels horrible right?

You begin to ask yourself questions …

Will you always be alone?
Will you find someone else?
Are you ugly?
Are you too old?
Will anyone want you now?

Your confidence has taken a huge knock that’s a hard one to get over.

Like I said the initial reaction for most is this… FILL THE GAP! Then when the gap is filled, you are back in a relationship and the reality is… it’s usually back to how things were almost before but with a new partner.

It’s incredible that some leave long term relationships and walk direct into a new one with no gap. How can they get to know themselves?

Anyway, for most people… that’s fine but it depends on what kind of life you really want to live or should I say NEED to survive, thrive and grow into someone not just good but incredible!

Lets look at this whole scenario again from a very personal perspective. Bear in mind I am not saying anything is right or wrong I am simply stating my opinion..

After nearly 30 years of being in just 2 relationships, one for 27 years and one for 3 years I found myself all alone. Yes I had the fears and wanted the gap filled but I took a new view of this after my second relationship ended.

For the VERY FIRST TIME in my life I had an opportunity to re-shape and re-build a life that I NEEDED not what I wanted or to fill the gap!

I was scared, I had fears of course but I wanted an incredible new kind of relationship at the same time unlike the past ones.

Here’s what I discovered what I always wanted isn’t what I’ve always needed.

Let me say that again.

Wanted vs Needed

I can bet you know what you want. I can also bet you maybe don’t know what you need.

For example …

Forget right now what you want and write down a list as long as you like of what you NEED.

I don’t mean write I need a man or a woman. I mean write down the actual specifics of what you want from them.

Again for example I wrote my own list of things I need.

Here’s a couple from my own list.

1. Daily connection at all levels.
2. Loyalty at every level.

Those were two out of a list in front of me from over 30 things I discovered after taking time to meditate and think that I actually NEED. Both of those weren’t being fulfilled by either relationship. Things began to look very different.

I looked back I discovered out of the 30 plus NEEDS only 6 were being fulfilled.

Interesting right?

Because when the relationship breaks down you think it’s the end of the world. The knot, the pain, the world has ended yet the good news is this.

You have been handed an opportunity on a plate to grow at a rate you will never have seen before in your life. Why is that? You are now staring one of mans deepest fears right in the face. The fear of being alone.

Now you are alone.

Now you have a golden opportunity.

The opportunity is this… to find out about YOU.
Who are you?
What are you?
What do you really need?
Did you really like xyz from the previous relationship?

This has now become about discovering the real YOU.

So here’s what you do now.

Now write down a list of what you want from a relationship.

Now write down a list of what you NEED from a relationship.

Now compare what you need to what you want. See the difference?

Here’s what I suggest for you.

Take time to BE alone and find out who and what you really are. Everything in life you never did or said no to… say YES and try them for yourself to see if you actually like them. I did this and made some huge discoveries.

Return to nature, learn from life itself. Go for walks, watch people, watch animals, watch creation at play. Watch lovers on a bench, watch people with children, watch the birds in the sky… OBSERVE the real meaning of everything and you will discover the meaning of yourself.
 
Don’t take advice from others. They love and want to help you of course but they are not YOU. Their pre-set levels of what is right, wrong, good or bad are very different to what you have set for yourself. You need to know what YOU think and feel.

Don’t read to much, avoid training DVDs, avoid seminars, get to know who you really are by simply BE – IN yourself.

And let me say again it’s not that others don’t want to help you they do but this is about you and you getting to understand yourself at a much deeper level.

Ask yourself lots of questions all the time. Am I what they said I am? Do I do what they said I do? And so on. If you are what they said and you understand well simply admit it and if it’s a trait that is damaging to you, change, be your own change.

Then keep on looking for answers because you know what will eventually take place? You will pass through what is your valley of dark, endless, confusion and come out of the other side with clarity about YOU and what you really NEED as a person.

The gap gets filled by yourself. You have become the solution, not another person. Once you know yourself there can NEVER be a gap or a void again.

The truth is you can never be alone. Being alone is a manufactured line to protect them that are alone. Yet the reality is it protects no one, it only allows the one alone to go deeper into a state of fear and more confusion and when in the depths of fear it’s almost impossible to come out again at the other side.

Finally I just wanted to share this.

If you have read this far well this is the good bit. When you become who you truly are here’s the magic… you’ll finally attract what you truly want or… what you really need.

BE COME and allow what you NEED to come to you. THIS DOES happen. What you need at the time will arrive for you but you need to allow and don’t force anything, don’t search, don’t try and pull things to you, simply be at peace with yourself and watch what takes place I promise.

I know you might be thinking but Alan I am still alone? That is simple, you have not yet become at peace with yourself and you are not attracting the right mate to you that can give you what you need.

Does this mean you don’t see anyone now until the right one arrives? Not at all, get out, discover and see and feel how people really are, allow them to be themselves on dates you’ll be surprised what you discover.

In the meantime… have fun and head out on your voyage of discovery. A tip I can share with you is anything you have said no to in the past or in your life… go try it and see how it feels when you do. Like me, I think you’ll be surprised to discover another new part of you.

I hope this has helped you. Just a handful of things I have discovered during my own little period alone… A-LONE.

Alone but a truly exciting, enlightening, refreshing part of my life. It’ll be the same for you if you go back to YOU and find your NEEDS not wants.

It’s been tough. It’s been magic. It’s been discovery. It’s been a time to connect and discover. Looking back, I’ve loved it.

AND YOU … You’ll be fine, it really is all going to be fine.

Now you finally know who you are, continue to grow, continue you discover and watch the one you need come to you.

I hope this has helped.

The closer I got the more detail I could see. It was a man, he was alone, he was sitting down, looking almost staring at the floor.

It was sunny yet he was sat in the shade. There was lots of free space yet he sat still, silent and unmoved at any visible level.

I kept on walking for another 10 feet but this guy was filling my head with thoughts of ‘is he ok?’.

I turned around and went back. I said…’excuse me, I hope you don’t mind me asking are you ok?’

He looked at me with water filled eyes and told me this story…

10 months ago I could walk up and down stairs, to the shops, play with my kids, play with my dogs and just be normal. Today I am half a man with no legs, no ability with nothing to give’

I have to say the conversation went on for around 30 minutes, we talked and cried together, it was nice. He never told me how he had lost his legs. I never asked. He never told me where he lived or what he does, I never asked. He never told me about his wife and family, I never asked.

What he did tell me was this.

‘I am worthless, worth nothing to no one, what is the point of being alive’

I asked him how old are his kids?

He told me 7 and 9 years old.

I asked how when they see you how do they react?

He told me they smile, laugh and ask him to race around the house on his new ‘racing car’ (wheelchair).

We went on so I asked him this question.

How do you think your children would cope if you were not here?
He replied’ utter devastation’

I said to him do you think it’s worthwhile being alive knowing that your existence makes your children’s lives fuller?

He cried as did I.

I held his hand just for a moment, got up, said goodbye and walked on.

I have to be honest here. I got to a point about half a mile up the old railway, went down the embankment and had a cry myself.

The question had been raised…’SELF WORTH’… what is it?

This man had clearly been through something he didn’t reveal to me. At the point of his life as we spoke he had lost his self worth or value of himself.

In other words… what is his value,, his contribution and how does he see it himself?

He had become encased in thoughts of EVERYONE thinks I am disabled and no good. The reality is they all loved him more than ever and he really was filling a part of their lives also.

So his mind and his reality were playing games with him.

When he is alone and goes into himself he gets lost in the confusion of thought. When he is with his kids, he reacts to their reaction and becomes happy though them.

Interesting don’t you think how the sense of self can overcome and overwhelm to a point of destruction?

Yet the reality is much different.

How about you?

How do you value yourself, and what is your sense of it?

When I say value I mean how much do you think you are worth? Lets say in pounds or dollars?

You could be at a place in your life where you put a low amount on it? You could be in a place where you put a high amount on it. Yet if I was to remove all the cash and asked you the same question again how would you explain your value?

Remember this is about your self value or sense of self. It’s not about what anyone thinks. If you know 100 people they all have an opinion of you right? Yet all of their opinions of you are not YOUR truth or your reality, how can they be?

So again what is your own sense of self? Your own self value? That is up to you to find out. When you do write it down and ask yourself about what you read is that actually true?

Going back the wheelchair walker.

I turned around and walked back along the old railway. It’s pretty flat so a wheelchair can be used on it. Who should, be coming towards me but the guy in the wheelchair. I smiled to myself from this distance he looked happy… I was looking forward to him catching up to me.

At this point he was round 20 feet away and I can tell you he had his head raised and a smile from one side of his face to another.

He shouted out… ‘Alan’

I smiled and said ‘hi again Tony’

He said to me…

Thank you so much for sitting and speaking with me, I’ll never forget it. He said you know the bridge up there with the river below?’ I said ‘yes’

He said today I came along here to kill myself by going over the old bridge into the river on my wheelchair but now I am racing home to see my kids smile. You made me wake up and realize my own worth to my kids’

I could hardly talk… I said ‘how about your value to you?’

He said one word… ‘PRICELESS’

Gave me a huge, huge smile and raced away after shaking my hand to meet his kids after school.

I have nothing more to write. It’s a short story that happened. Make your won conclusions but remember…

You are worth more than you can ever believe. Love your self, discover yourself BE your sense of self.

I’d love your feedback?

*~A.F.S.~*

Hooked, addicted, news, abuser … this is the world of the News Narcotic!

I was in my village today where I live and a guy asked if I’d seen the news all week? I said ‘no’

He reply, ‘no are you serious you don’t know about this guy killing his ex-wife, shooting a policeman in the face hiding for days and then shooting himself live on TV in the head?’

‘No’ I replied. He looked at me as if I had just landed from another solar system on a day visit to Lymm!

The conversation ended. Then as I looked along the line EVERYONE was talking about this news incident. Even worse Jean (the till girl) would say to every single person at the checkout the same line…

‘did you see that man on the news shooting all of those people and then killing himself, Terrible wasn’t it, terrible’

I eventually got to the checkout and she repeated the same one liner to me. I replied to her…’are you enjoying the hot  weather?’ Jean replied… ‘at least it was good weather for that guy on the run and to shoot himself’

I thought, how can it ever be good weather to shoot yourself? Has Jean gone crazy?  Has the people in the shop been taken over by some insidious invisible airborne virus?

When I got outside I then could see the same story on billboards, on a TV across the road in an electronics window and as I walked past people up the street I could easily hear how they were all talking about the same subject.

This is the effect of News Narcotic.

Think about this.

You go to bed at night and your brain and body refreshes itself from all the dirt and grime from the day. Even the mental grime from the news, media and more.

Then in the morning we are programmed to… listen to the news… in our home, in our car, from a newspaper, in the line at the shops, one person to another… chat, chat, chat!

Does that have an effect on mankind? Does that have an effect on YOU?

You bet it does.

Think about this.

You drink tea or coffee? You drink coke? They are caffeine loaded. Now I know you don’t need big brother me to tell you that but let think about this.

Each day first thing in the morning, several times in the day, in the evenings we load up with our drinks, our favorite drinks right? Now we do it on autopilot. We don’t think about it because our body needs it. Our body is asking us, it’s telling, demanding of us we top up. If we don’t follow the subliminal demands… we suffer headaches etc.

So think about this.

Your body, my body reacts and acts in ways not even scientists understand. What we do know and they do know is what we ingest mentally and physically has an effect on our body.

So when we wake up our news addiction asks us to tune and find out. We wake, switch on tune in and top up. Why? Because that’s what we are conditioned to do. Go to any news stand where I live on a weekend in particular and you’ll see line after line after line after line of people walking out topping up on the news.

The problem with this is this…

Science has proved humans are affected at a cellular level by external happenings.

When we all tune into something bad it reduces the wavelength or the force or the power or the energy we work at. In other words we under perform at almost every level.

When we tune into good, we over perform and I think the best recent example is the HIGH of the World Cup in South Africa. A nation come together like never before to celebrate the good of sport and people coming together. They read it. They slept it. The worked it. The ate it. It transformed that nation in months. Incredible example of how GOOD vibrations can transform.

But when we focus on the bad stuff like the news, like celebrity lifestyles, like soap operas, like TV trash, like daily news on the hour, from the hour we are led into a dark alley on nowhere and no growth for ourselves as people.

In the UK we have a TV show called Eastenders. From start to finish it is manafactured human misery and drama. Death, divorce, pain, suffering, tears and low, low feeling. Yet a third of the UK population watch it. You can hear people talking and being part of the life of the characters. They talk as if they are real. ‘Did you see what happend to Pauline last night?’ … yet Pauline doesn’t exist, she is fantasty created by a writer. This fantasty becomes a reality and is aborbed into the human.

Actually… terrifying when you think about this!

In fact this negative food holds mankind in a state of fear. When in a state of fear mankind will ALWAYS look to be led and NOT lead himself.

So man when at that level is hooked, looking and asking for a leader at an invisible level.

Interesting because everyman has the ability to lead himself in or out of everything but it depends on how tuned in he/she is to themselves.

The more we unplug from the daily happenings, newsreel, endless gossip about his life, her life, their life and the more we focus on who and what we are as human BE-INs the more we unleash the creator, the genius, the human in us.

Are you addicted? Are you hooked on News Narcotics?

There is always a way out for you. There are always for you to grow and expand yourself, to get strong, be stronger, thrive and survive.

It’s up to you.

Enjoy your adventure.

Adulterous Bitch!

Shocking right but true. Or is it?

Just a few doors away from me lives a lady of 74 years old.

Just yesterday as I was putting out some washing to dry I heard a voice shout ‘Alan, Alan’

I went to the path to see this frail, unstable woman calling me. It was my neighbor Hilary.

She wanted to talk. Honestly I was busy yet I knew she wanted some time so I sat down and listened.

I asked how she was? She has got shingles and clearly lost a lot of weight. I asked her… ‘where is Roger?’. Roger is her husband.

She replied…

‘we are still deeply in love you know from the day we met’

Interesting I thought as I never asked her anything like that but she still offered to tell me that.

I smiled, she smiled, she then told me her story.

She said…

‘There’s a big age gap you know. I am 21 years older than him. I am now 74 and he is 53′.

I sat in silence and listened.

‘Yes we met when he was at college. He was just 23 and I was 44, married with 5 children’

We were in love right away. Can you imagine the scandal? It’s always ok for an older man to be with a younger woman but when an older woman is with a younger man it’s a scandal.’

I just smiled and sat there in the sun soaking up the story.

She lifted her small thin arm to her mouth. Took the remaining half a cigarette from a time earlier in the day, put it to her mouth, lit it and carried on.

Looking back it was a crazy time. All the town were in uproar. My husband followed us for years and years. My children were devastated, his parents went absolutely crazy over it and we spent years at war with everyone and anyone. It was a very hard time’

I asked her one question… ‘what got you through it’

She replied ‘love’

I smiled at her and she said…

Yes… Just pure love, not lust or sex just a deep understanding of each other at every level.

We locked ourselves away, loved each other and created music’

She then went on to tell me another story of how she sold over 60,000 copies of her Celtic Music CD that they had created in their bedroom studio just 3 doors away from my home. Turns out she plays almost anything with strings, he is a genius violinist and they are wonderfully happy till this day in love.

She smiled, told me about her illness and then had another cigarette. She looked at me in the eye and said…

‘Don’t worry Alan, I know, it’ll all be fine’

She knows I’m divorced. She knows I have 4 kids. She knows I have had love and lost love.

She smiled, held my hand and went back into her home.

I walked back into my own home totally inspired by her story and I want to tell you why.

This lady had done something most young people haven’t done.Lived and lived to tell her story.

She has been through the eye of the storm at many levels and survived. She is a survivor of LIFE and a lover in the truest sense.

Both her and her lover (they have never married) still adore each other to this day. The age gap is painfully obvious at the physical level yet to see them together it would be easy to judge what or who they are.

Have you ever done that? Seen something, someone and made a call of some kind in your mind about them. IF you get the chance to know them, they weren’t what you thought they were in fact they were the absolute opposite to what you expected.

Yet based on your conditioning, based on your own measurement of right and wrong you made a judgment.

Yet think about this; in life you are really only responsible for one person… YOU.

And when faced with the truth of YOU most of us back away, go into denial, brush everything over with huge helping of Ego.

Why is that?

Because of fear. Fear of who? Fear of what others will think. So because we fear the opinions of others we develop and create false realities.

Think about this for my neighbor all those years ago. She told me people were saying she is a pervert, adulteress and child snatcher because of what she did.

The reality was she was desperately unhappy and because of that she decided to leave her husband, forsake her kids for a while and jump into the fire with a younger man that she loved and he loved her.

Was that wrong?

We could say yes but who’s level or standard do we Measure it against? The standards of others. Standards of God. Standards of truth?

And the simple truth is we live in a world where the talk, the gossip, the lives of others have taken on more meaning than our own.

Wherever you go you will hear of others talking about others. Judging, condemning, putting someones life right without ever bothering to look at their own.

And here’s what I learned.

Give time to those that need your time. Honestly I couldn’t be bothered but after 30 minutes of listening I was truly glad I did listen.

Hold back from judging and listen to the whole story. When you really look at the bigger picture its easy to see both sides.

Remove yourself from their life. You can only judge them if you try and put them into your shoes, your mind, your thoughts. Yet why would you do that if you would hate someone else to think of you in that way?

The 74 year old lady next door is happy. She is in love. Her man is happy. He’s clearly in love. They have dedicated themselves to each other since the first day despite all the problems they encountered.

Her children love her and are around all the time. Her children love him. Time healed everything. It’s fine for them.

You know…

The doorway to happiness is what we create. The life we need to create our happiness is the life we create. When we think, think, think about what we want in life, it appears, the laws of attraction whether we know them are not kick into action and make it happen.

But Ultimately… it’s up to us, it’s up to YOU.

Let me explain and also show you how knowing this could change the way you think and feel.

When born in April 15th 1452 his father took him away to live with him while his mother married another man eventually giving birth to another 17 siblings.

Because the child was a ‘bastard’ born outside of marriage this instantly gave him the handicap of being disqualified from education by the Church.

This meant if he was to learn… he would have to teach himself. So he went about teaching himself to write. Yet his technique was unusual to say the least. As he had never had formal education of any sort his writing to a form of writing from right to left in a nation where like the English all wrote from left to right.

Successful at writing his life then took on a voyage of discovery and achievement. This child was Leonardo Davinci.

Painter, artist, inventor, thinker and more. The man was clearly a genius. I was just wonder why?

When you look at what took place with him the moment was when society rejected him because he was a bastard. This cut him off from mainstream from birth.

Once cut off if he wanted to learn more about anything he would have to do it alone.

Isn’t that interesting.

The man was a recognized genius at EVERYTHING he did. At one point Davinci was even enlisted to make war machines and better more effective weapons. Hard to believe it was the same man that painted the last supper!

I believe there is a lesson here, a very powerful lesson for the way we our lives and grow as a human being.

Davinci had the handicap or blessing of missing out on mainstream education.

This kicked his brain and mind into gear. He was known for going into nature and spending hours and days studying the workings of just about everything. This ignited his inner genius to come slowly to the surface and create the genius he finally became.

It appears he never forced it, he followed his natural built in nature to discover everything. Just look how he turned out.

Interesting right, he was a dreamer. He dreamed of things, making things, finding out things, developing and chasing his dreams.

Yes probably most of your life you have been told to stop dreaming, stop being a fantasist, stop being unrealistic.

In those moments you are told that you maybe shrunk back… back to what most call reality yet that reality is based on what the mainstream teach us.

Get a good education. Get a good job. Get promotion. Get a good car. Get a good house (detached is best). Get a good husband and wife. Get a good pension. Have a good life and maybe have an extra holiday on the beach of you behave well or save enough. Oh yes don’t forget… always  try and get a car better than your neighbors!

Sound familiar?
Have you been there?
Does it feel like your going there?

You know it’s never tool ate to make massive changes in your life. It’s never too late to discover, uncover and recover your hidden genius. You do, you still have it despite what you might have been told.

Don’t dream
Don’t plan.
You can’t do it.
That’s ridiculous.
It’ll fail.

You’ve heard that right?

When people say that to you it’s simply THEM reflecting themselves, their fears, their traits, their patterns onto you.

This is where you need to dig deep and get inside yourself.
This is the moment when you must let go, spend time alone within yourself.
DE-surround yourself with those of a much more conditioned and rigid way of thinking.

Awaken all possibilities that you can be more, you can be bigger and realize your own potential.

It’s easier than you might be thinking. You might have to strip away old ways, old thinking and then refill those gaps with new thoughts. That’s fine. That’s good.

But …

You should be aware you BE-COME what you feed yourself mentally and physically of course.

Put TV, and Media rubbish into your mind… that’s is what you vessel becomes just another me-too, same as human being that has never reached their own potential and never will.

Lets go back to Davinci for a second.

He would vanish into nature. See the color of everything. Hear the noise of everything. See the shape of everything… he absorbed himself in reality.

Reality TV is NOT reality. Its dream scape in transmission designed to hold mankind in a dreamlike state.

Food and hypnosis for the masses.

So how about you? How about today? What can you do to recover, reveal and release your inner genius?

Please share.

Alan Forrest Smith

I got a text message from a pal of mine. I had already asked him to meet for lunch and chat. His reply was ‘too busy’

I rang him and said doing what? He replied doing stuff.

Interesting I know for a fact his life appears to be fast. Going here, going there, doing this, doing that yet I wonder I just wonder.

I went for a walk thinking about him. I was thinking about him because he is part of the new super-generation of connected disconnects.

Think about this.

When I was 12 I had a young guy from the USA in my class for around 3-4 months. It was the first time any of us had seen an American outside the movies. I can remember us all being fascinated with this character wanting to hear him talk.

Now kids know people from all over the planet and it’s seen as normal. As I type my son Oli is on his PS3 speaking with kids all over the planet as they try and defeat the bad guys in games.

Smart phones have literally exploded. Now it appears the biggest trend for web browsing is phones NOT PC.

Facebook have just completed some research that indicates the slow death of email. When a large group of people were asked how they connect online MOST said Facebook. A large chunk of those didn’t own an email address. I know for a fact the only way to grab two of my sons is via Facebook.

Picture this: My son in his room. He plays his PS3. To his left is a laptop. To his right is a large PC. On his leg is an iPod. On his bed is an iPad. As he plays games he IMs his pals. He texts me for a drink. He emails me and his mates for other stuff.

You can walk out, take a photo and within 30 seconds have it on Facebook or other social media for the World to see.

You can connect to anther person on the other side of the planet in less than one second.

Bottom line is it seems we are very connected.

Yet the reality is we are more disconnected than ever before. What do I mean?

Lets think about life itself here. I mean is life in one dimension, two dimensions or three dimensions?

The answer might seem obvious yet the truth might not seem as obvious.

When we see a photograph of someone we create an impression or image in our mind. Thais is one dimensional of course. When we see that person on video or film or sound that creates a second dimensional thought. Yet both those thoughts leave us detached from the third dimension.

Why is that. I suppose the first questions is what is the third dimension? Let me try and illustrate.

You know when you go into a room  and finally meet the person you have seen on video, heard on audio or seen photographs of right?

When you meet them in 3D they are not the person you imagined or they are more than the person you imagined do you agree?

So up until that point what you thought they were, when you finally meet them, they were not.

So although you felt you were connected to the person, suddenly your brain is thrown into a spin because when you see them in the flesh it appears there is no connection. Why is that?

Honestly I am not 100% sure but here is what I do know and what I have seen. There are things we cannot explain. The on-going conditioning of humanity tells us if we cannot explain or prove with what tools we have right now, we must dismiss it. We are told to say, I don’t believe, I don’t accept or even worse we voice no opinion. Yet it is the greatest mysteries that have created the greatest thinkers. These thinkers go out all the way to discover and solve.

In other words, they connect and use their brains, their minds, their heart, their spirit, they are … CONNECETED in the fullest sense.

I wonder you know I just wonder are we losing connection in the real sense of things?

Whats the MESSAGE  in all of this?

It has to be simple… we reconnect and disconnect for a while at the same time.

Don’t be afraid of spending some time without your cellphone. Don’t be scared of not checking your email.Don’t worry that he, she or someone can’t get a hold of you. Take time to BE with yourself.

Have you seen how everyone goes for a run or a walk with headphones in?

Imagine what you miss. The wonderful sound of a bird. The powerful sound of the huge A380 flying over. The sounds of children playing. The whish of the wind blowing through the trees.

They might sound like nothing but here is one thing we cannot deny… the Law of nature, the law of creation, the laws of the universe and they continually tell us we MUST connect.

So here’s a question for you …

Have you connected to anything or anyone today?

I hope you get something from this.

Meet Cameron.

He is a dreamer. He is a doer. He is a highlander. Cameron is building a house made from trees, real trees, huge trees, not a weak mans log. This is the real thing.

Let me explain.

On a recent trip into the Highlands of Scotland my friend drove me past and immense wooden structure standing alone in the forest. I asked my friend to quickly pull over and stop. I got out and couldn’t believe what I was looking at. It was a house built from trees, not small logs but massive full grown trees!

I was intrigued to say the least. This was my dream home and clearly someone else’s , I went to find out more.

So I decided to walk down the lane into the forest to check out what was going on.

As I walked down there was a work shed on the left, surrounded by chopped wood and tools. On the right was an even bigger shed where someone was clearly living. Directly ahead of me was what I can only describe a a herculean project that the photos I have supplied really don’t do justice to.

The closer I got the bigger the building appears. As I stood next to it, my head didn’t reach the window sill on the outside.

I spotted in the roofing what looked like a small guy wearing an rabbit skinned hat wearing jeans, a work belt and from the side of his mouth hung a self rolled cigarette you know the type that never gets smoked it just hangs there until the ash gets so heavy it drops off.

I shouted up ‘hello’ and asked if I could speak with him?

He climbed down the trees, approached me with a large smile on his face shook my hand, told me his name and welcomed me to his place. Strangely he was quite tall stood next to me, he just looked small standing in his giant tree house!

So I asked him…

What are you doing here, why build some thing so huge?

His story went like this.

I am a highlander. All my life I have been surrounded by trees. I work with trees, carefully prune them, make them healthy and remove them to make the forest healthy. There is no greater thing for a man than to be close to nature.

So I asked Cameron, why are you building this then?

He told me about his dreams to live in the trees, with the trees, breathing touching and being part of the trees daily.

He told me his option was to live in a house built from the hands of another with the ideas of another made from materials that he couldn’t relate to or didn’t want to be near to or build his dream home.

He went on to tell me that when working in the forest one day he had an idea while felling trees.

You see he would fell the trees and then the trees would be removed and sold, chopped up and become a faceless piece of furniture in a faceless world.

Cameron thought why not keep the trees in the forest, buy a plot of land, take the trees to the land and build a home that would last longer than any ‘throw it up quick, cheap, love free house’.

Now think about this.

I am talking about FULL GROWN trees here. Not young trees. These things are massive. 100 to 150 foot long and I would say a couple of feet wide. Can you imagine picking that up or even trying to move it alone?

As Cameron went on telling me his story he seemed to have overcome almost every kind of challenge faced before him and why?

Because Cameron believe in dreams.

It made me think, I mean really think. How many dreams in life do we have and give up on at the first hurdle?

Why?

Because there are too many things in the way.
Because everyone says it’s impossible.
Because the first people we talk to say no we are crazy.
Because no one else does it that way.
And so on.

Why do people react like that?

They are dream destroyers. They don’t do it on purpose but they only see life the way it has been set out for them. They are told what is best for them. They do what they are told always because they believe if they do their own thing that is rocking the boat and rocking the boat isn’t a good thing.

They will say to you… "just do what everyone does, it’s easier"

Yet they are living a life that is unfulfilled, lacking in and sense of self creation. Being one of the masses is the easy way and they make sure you know that.

Yet we were made to dream but as children we were told off about ‘day dreaming’ told to be real and grow up, get a grip, stop dreaming.

As adults were are told dreams are pure fantasy, they are for ‘weird, strange’ people. Dreams are for those that never achieve anything, you have to be real!

You’ve heard that right? You’ve had that said to you?

Yet look at Cameron. He had a dream. His dreams was to live in the trees. He faced massive obstacles to make it happen. Cameron is building his tree house alone, lifting and shifting trees on his own. Sounds impossible right? He bought a pice of highland forest and is now creating his reality. He is living proof that any dreams can become real if we BELEIVE in them. Yes not just try them, not just think about them but actually believe that they can happen.

I spoke to Cameron, he was single focused, not only was he living his dream, he believed his dream could happen, it was happening for him. Not doing it was never an option for him. He has been building this home for years. It is jaw-dropping to see in real-life.

How about you?

Do you have a dream?
Would you love your dream to become real?
Do you think it ever could be real?

One big question… you might have a big dream but do you BELIEVE?

Dreams can become real. I myself am living proof of that. I have had many dreams that have become a reality. They are real, they are the start of you manifesting your deepest desire.

If you truly, absolutely believe, your dreams can become a reality.

God for cash, God for love, God for living, real God, no God, I’m God, Your God and… this is just an observation but…

I met this lady.

She was wonderful. We went for a long walk in a long open space and she spoke to me in a gentle kind manner about how her life has been revealed, opened and guided.

She used to believe in God.
Now she believes in herself as a god.

She used to rely on God.
Now she relies on herself as a godlike being.

She used to pray to God.
Now she chants endless repetitions about how she has arrived to save the World.

Now this is JUST AN OBSERVATION… but is there more and more of these people coming out of the woodwork?

She had given up everything.

Her car, her home, her husband, her regular life. She was now flat broke and had no plans. I asked her why? She replied because the Universe has plans for her, big, huge plans. The Universe will bring them to her at the right time. All she has to do is wait for the universe.

I said… is that realistic? She said… I have no expectations, no thoughts, the universe works alone and deliver when ready.

I must admit my brain was working overtime at this point.

Here was a beautiful young woman that had given away everything, walked away from everything. She must have needs. I asked her… what about your needs… she said I no longer need anything. I said anything, she replied yes anything.

Now I don’t know about you.

I need Tea.
I need gadgets.
I need my guitar.
I need my lover.
I need carrot cake.
I need to be close to Scotland.
I need my kids.

Why?

I just do, maybe I need therapy also…

But I do know I really have needs.

I have needs and wouldn’t give them up for anything, anyone, anytime soon.

I asked her what all the changes?

She told me about this big seminar she had been to. Her eyes had been opened. She was almost convulsing on the floor at the thought of her new enlightened state during this event. Like Saul on the donkey… her eyes had been opened, the scales had fallen off, she could now see where she was once blind.

She got the manual.
She went on the course and the next course and the next course and was shown how to find herself amongst the mass of mankind.

She discovered that she had a purpose and the purpose was to save mankind… SOMEHOW?
She discovered that nothing else mattered only her own self fulfillment
She discovered that God was now just part of the Universe and now the universe should be asked for all things.
She discovered a lot.

But you know what I observed?

A woman completely lost, lonely at home with an animal or two, living a mythical life where nothing leads to nowhere.

A woman that had become an evangelist for the new age faiths being spread from stages all over the planet.

She like countless others is broke, lonely, sad and has nothing in life apart from a shelf full of manuals, self- help DVDs and a stack of credit cards bills she’s unable to pay this month or any month in fact.

What the hell is going on?

I have just come back from the wonderful Dam walk. This is a lake that goes around a dam near where I live.

I enjoyed every moment being in the 3rd dimension. When I say 3rd dimension, this is real now, this is where my senses are engaged, my sight, my hearing, the nerves endings on my skin are all engaged. I can taste, smell everything. Small bird moves in the corner of my eye, my body is quick enough to see, hear, sense it and move around fast enough to be able to take a photo, this is the 3rd dimension.

Yet there is an invisible dimension, some call the 4th or even the 5th. There are also an awakened people coming to new life and seeing this new dimension. These are maybe like you, like me, like others that want more from life.

Yet sadly in business there are also those that are becoming aware of this 4th dimension and willing to use, abuse and manipulate if for hard cash.

Look can I give you my take on this?

If your life sucks, if it’s crap, if you are not happy, if it is killing you, draining you, exhausting you… CHANGE IT.

But when you are in that place you are hungry and eager for change. Yet you are weakened by what is taking place, physically and mentally exhausted by the drudgery of your life.

So when something drops in front of your eyes that is exciting, new, fresh, invigorating and at the same time you are swept along by the energy of the mass of people… you are like a hungry fish snapping at the bait and BANG… you are in.

Are you brain-washed? Not at all. Brainwashing is when you remove all the crap from your brain and start to add new thinking, new thoughts that make you happier long term.

This is more like brain toxin being injected into the brain.

Think about it.

You arrive feeling crap.

You leave feeling amazing.

You pay for everything on offer.

Your life two years down the line if solitary, lonely and devoid of any reality.

Why?

You were told by another human being that this is the way… follow it.

I have seen this in action. I once saw a girl sign up for a ONE HUNDRED THOUSAND POUND mentor course. The course and the mentor promised to show those that bought into it THE WAY, their life purpose, their key to success, their divine path. HONESTLY!

But think about it … is that the way the Universe or even God work?

And what is taking place here is there are those that are now using 4th dimension (spiritual paths) to make heaps and heaps of cash in the process!

THEY WILL fall flat on their faces. Truth always overcomes as we are seeing in the case of James Arthur Ray right now.

This 4th dimension twist is leaving many, many, many totally broke yet they (and the girl above) still held tight their chosen  messianic saviors mentors despite the fact they break them completely!

Interesting times, interesting thoughts, interesting observations.

This really is a God delusion at a very deep level. It’s growing and growing fast. What I do find interesting is that at the same time the illusionists that pump out this brain filth and destroy lives in the process will also vanish like the morning mists.

They might make their cash promising millions a new way, a new life, a new direction yet at the same to they create a false reliance on ‘NOTHING’.

Are you enjoying life in the 3rd dimension? Are you interested in life in the 4th dimension?

Be careful but be true to yourself always.

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Her skinned was smoothed with exotic oils and the finest luxury care that could be afforded.

Andromache was tall, refined, stunning and every bit the Greek looking goddess she was meant to be.

Her life was a life of a Greek queen. She was worshiped as she should and would also worship the man that would give his very last breath for her. Her man was the kind of man we mostly no longer make. He was a real man, a warrior man, strong, proud, defiant and loving. Nothing could touch him, nothing could affect him, nothing could break his love for his wife. His name was Hector.

Yet here I was sitting in a Museum in Manchester across the small, aged leather sofa looking and studying a painting by Frederic Lord Leighton, 1888, at the Manchester City Art Galleries.

It’s a ancient Greek looking scene.

There are 15 women in the line all waiting to get water from the well. All the women look happy going along their regular business. There are 6 in front of Andromache and 8 behind her. There is a gap, Andromache stands out, it’s clear she has fallen and feels alien where she is. They all notice her, how can they fail to.

She was the wife of Hector. Hector now lay dead killed by Achilles and left rotting with the dead of battle, for the birds to devour.

She looked sad in the scene yet as I spent 20 minutes studying the painting I couldn’t help myself getting into her brain, her mind, her life at that point.

You see one of the first things they did in these days to captives (if they let them live) would be to re-condition them into the new society they had been taken back to. They would have to go back to school, learn the culture, learn the language, learn the currency, learn the history. If they didn’t they would die, it was that simple. Conditioning was the key to their survival.

As I looked at the paining and looked at Andromache I wondered for a minute.

She was the wife or a warrior, a real, a true man. The kind of man that lived his word and rarely failed to deliver. It was in them, they understood how to be men in those times. She knew that. His last breath was for her. He would lie dying on the battle field repeating and repeating her name, time and time again until he passed into his underworld.

She will have lived with her man until his death. Nothing would sway her, her loyalty as a real woman, loyal, loving the kind of lover of the truest kind would never sway away from her warrior man. Yet there she was on the painting being institution by a society that just wanted her to play the rules or lose her life!

Did she play the rules, did she not play them I have no idea? I do know this, her loyalty to her man will not have been bought for any price.

These thoughts brought me right back to the moment I was sitting, looking and observing.

It made me think about society, forced me to review the busy streets outside on my walk over to the Gallery, the busy, rushing about people that have unwittingly been forced into playing the rules, doing what they have been told, playing the game of life as designed by the machines that desire nothing more than to control people.

And do most of them look happy? Not the guy that pushed me into the road while using his mobile phone. Not the guy that beeped his car and rushed to his next appointment in his car. Not the tired looking faces of those that have been forced into 21st century slavery with the promise of dreamlike prizes if they behave, do as they are told and conform.

I just wonder how many real men like Hector were on that street. The type of man that knows, he doesn’t have to be spoon fed or controlled or strung along by a selfless face of nothingness called society.

I wondered how many Andromache women were out there. The kind of woman that can deliver loyalty, love and fierce lioness unselfish tenancies for what they know as the truth. The kind of real women that will die and happily deliver their final breath in the arms of their real man.

Not many, hardly any, very rare and I have yet to meet a woman like that or a real man for that fact!

Because the reality is as free as we might think we are most of us are caught in  a preset cycle that was at one time set by another person with a great idea of what will be best for mankind.

For example we are told that our happiness is always tied into a future event. The future event could be…

When I get that house
When I get that car
When I get that holiday
When I get that partner When I get more cash in the bank

Think about it. No I said think about it. That means you are only going to be happy when?

The answer is in the future… or so they say, those that have made most of mankind into grey droid-like drones with dark rings under their eyes dreaming and hoping the future will make them happy.

Hector and Andromache and people like thm are happy and fulfilled because they know, they truly understood how to be in the moment.

So what about you?

Are you like Hector, strong, defined, knowing and faithful to the very end?

Are you like Andromache, loyal, loving, guarding and knowing until your final day?

My observations will say these type of people, real people are probably one of the rarest breeds on Earth today, almost extinct.

Yet it doesn’t have to be that way for you.

You can be more than what you have been told. You can smash through the boundaries, the restrictions and conditioning handed down by decades of robot like yes men and women that play the game of chasing happiness.

Interesting going back the painting.

Andromache went from queen to slave.

I believe you can go from slave to being the queen, the king the master of your self.

Just a though, a passing thought as I suit in Manchester Gallery of art thinking about the real power of real men and real women.

If you are one of those I think you’ll find this quick interview about the MESSAGE interesting.

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INT: So Alan, what is the MESSAGE all about?

You know, as a child growing up, developing, learning, discovering we all accept what we are told in love from our parents and most other adults in institutions like school, colleges, authorities etc. That is normal for inexperienced kids and adults right?

Yet as we begin to step into adulthood we very quickly discover that a lot of what we were told doesn’t appear to have a solid foundation in the truth of life. In fact a lot of what we have been told tends to hold us back, time and time again. This in turn can create problems for us in areas of … Relationships, health, finances and more.

Yet all of what we have been told to help us in life as we grew up was told in genuine love in most cases.

So the question is what goes wrong to create the effect in our lives where things really don’t seem to work as well as they should.

Successful people seem to be unhappy. Divorce rates are skyrocketing, health is suffering.

And as we really look at this stuff, lets take the so named "mid-life-crisis" as an example.

This seem to take place around late 30′s – 40-ish where adults seem to have some kind of realization that things are not what they should be. Promise haven’t been fulfilled, dreams haven’t been reached and ambitions are still a distant occupation yet to be reached!

This isn’t uncommon in fact it seems to be very common place. To name it a crisis is seen as ‘negative’ to be looked down upon but actually I like the word. You see when a crisis takes place in a country or a business, it spurs everyone into massive action to ensure that all will be ok. Yet it seems that if someone we know or hear about is having a mid-life crisis of some kind we are trained to pull away and almost think that are going nuts! This is during a time when that person really needs everyone to pull together.

So it has become increasingly clear to me that although we are taught things in life with the very best intentions, that does not mean what we are taught in life is the ‘truth’ or the best for us.

INT: Why is that, would people tell us lies deliberately?

No they would not and no they don’t. However most people simply pass on what they have learned in their own life. They share with you what they have also been taught by others as it has been handed down over the decades or even centuries.

And this is where the MESSAGE comes to life.

The MESSAGE delivers answers from a deeper, higher more profound source in life. It takes almost everything and questions it. It takes all the repated answers and investigates them. It takes the mannerisms, conditioning and repeatisms and asks why?

More important … the MESSAGE has been awakened by behaviors that urgently need to be addressed in all of mankind!

This is the basis of the MESSAGE.

INT: Are you saying the MESSAGE is from a higher source?

I am saying the MESSAGE has found it’s way here and it wants to speak to those with ears that can listen.

INT: What do you mean by that?

I mean we what I say. When sheep hear the voice of their master they follow. Sheep will only respond to the voice of their master. If the MESSAGE is right for the listener, they will react and respond accordingly.

INT: What are you expecting people to do?

I am not expecting anything from anyone, I am simply passing on the MESSAGE to those that want to hear.

INT: If you had to say in a few words what the MESSAGE is then what would you say?

The MESSAGE has arrived to wake up, alert and inform those that need to hear more than repeatist patterns. It unravels conditioning and allows the listeners to make choices based on what they have inside rather than what they hear outside. The MESSAGE will transform!

INT: Would you like to say anything else?

Yes, some know me as a marketing man etc so it is important to let people know the MESSAGE is NOT for profit of any kind. It is not going to be pushed on a wholesale basis.

The MESSAGE is based on awareness and a waking, it will thrive and grow into the global message it already is.

No cash is to be profited from the MESSAGE.

It is a voice from the place that transforms and must be shared amongst mankind.

INT: Alan, thank you.

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