Want Need Relationship?

By Alan Forrest Smith | July 25, 2010

This I suppose is a little off topic for me but the response was so huge on Facebook I really wanted to share it for the simple reason it might help you.

I posted this small not on Facebook

‘Being alone is an interesting and very human process. It forces me to discover who I really and truly am at a much more subconscious level. I ask myself… Are you happy? Are you sad? Do you need a partner? Can you be alone and happy? These are the kind of questions and more I have been forced to ask myself. This is about me and what I want and need for my life…’

Think about this….

You are with people all of your young life, then as you get older your almost always with others,  family, friends and more. You get married or you are in a long term relationship and again you are always with someone. You are never alone and rarely get time to think, exercise your own mind and own way of being… BE – IN.

Then suddenly for the first time in your life after a relationship breakdown… suddenly you are ALONE… A-LONE.

If you are not used to this, it can have massive shock on your system and does have a huge shock on most peoples system.

The void.

The biggest challenge is suddenly a life that was full has been emptied and left a gap. A huge gap. This is the void.

Your initial instinct is to fill the gap right away. It’s panic, fear and more rolled into one. The tight knot is in your chest. The sleepless nights. The bed with you on one side and no one on the other. Feels horrible right?

You begin to ask yourself questions …

Will you always be alone?
Will you find someone else?
Are you ugly?
Are you too old?
Will anyone want you now?

Your confidence has taken a huge knock that’s a hard one to get over.

Like I said the initial reaction for most is this… FILL THE GAP! Then when the gap is filled, you are back in a relationship and the reality is… it’s usually back to how things were almost before but with a new partner.

It’s incredible that some leave long term relationships and walk direct into a new one with no gap. How can they get to know themselves?

Anyway, for most people… that’s fine but it depends on what kind of life you really want to live or should I say NEED to survive, thrive and grow into someone not just good but incredible!

Lets look at this whole scenario again from a very personal perspective. Bear in mind I am not saying anything is right or wrong I am simply stating my opinion..

After nearly 30 years of being in just 2 relationships, one for 27 years and one for 3 years I found myself all alone. Yes I had the fears and wanted the gap filled but I took a new view of this after my second relationship ended.

For the VERY FIRST TIME in my life I had an opportunity to re-shape and re-build a life that I NEEDED not what I wanted or to fill the gap!

I was scared, I had fears of course but I wanted an incredible new kind of relationship at the same time unlike the past ones.

Here’s what I discovered what I always wanted isn’t what I’ve always needed.

Let me say that again.

Wanted vs Needed

I can bet you know what you want. I can also bet you maybe don’t know what you need.

For example …

Forget right now what you want and write down a list as long as you like of what you NEED.

I don’t mean write I need a man or a woman. I mean write down the actual specifics of what you want from them.

Again for example I wrote my own list of things I need.

Here’s a couple from my own list.

1. Daily connection at all levels.
2. Loyalty at every level.

Those were two out of a list in front of me from over 30 things I discovered after taking time to meditate and think that I actually NEED. Both of those weren’t being fulfilled by either relationship. Things began to look very different.

I looked back I discovered out of the 30 plus NEEDS only 6 were being fulfilled.

Interesting right?

Because when the relationship breaks down you think it’s the end of the world. The knot, the pain, the world has ended yet the good news is this.

You have been handed an opportunity on a plate to grow at a rate you will never have seen before in your life. Why is that? You are now staring one of mans deepest fears right in the face. The fear of being alone.

Now you are alone.

Now you have a golden opportunity.

The opportunity is this… to find out about YOU.
Who are you?
What are you?
What do you really need?
Did you really like xyz from the previous relationship?

This has now become about discovering the real YOU.

So here’s what you do now.

Now write down a list of what you want from a relationship.

Now write down a list of what you NEED from a relationship.

Now compare what you need to what you want. See the difference?

Here’s what I suggest for you.

Take time to BE alone and find out who and what you really are. Everything in life you never did or said no to… say YES and try them for yourself to see if you actually like them. I did this and made some huge discoveries.

Return to nature, learn from life itself. Go for walks, watch people, watch animals, watch creation at play. Watch lovers on a bench, watch people with children, watch the birds in the sky… OBSERVE the real meaning of everything and you will discover the meaning of yourself.
 
Don’t take advice from others. They love and want to help you of course but they are not YOU. Their pre-set levels of what is right, wrong, good or bad are very different to what you have set for yourself. You need to know what YOU think and feel.

Don’t read to much, avoid training DVDs, avoid seminars, get to know who you really are by simply BE – IN yourself.

And let me say again it’s not that others don’t want to help you they do but this is about you and you getting to understand yourself at a much deeper level.

Ask yourself lots of questions all the time. Am I what they said I am? Do I do what they said I do? And so on. If you are what they said and you understand well simply admit it and if it’s a trait that is damaging to you, change, be your own change.

Then keep on looking for answers because you know what will eventually take place? You will pass through what is your valley of dark, endless, confusion and come out of the other side with clarity about YOU and what you really NEED as a person.

The gap gets filled by yourself. You have become the solution, not another person. Once you know yourself there can NEVER be a gap or a void again.

The truth is you can never be alone. Being alone is a manufactured line to protect them that are alone. Yet the reality is it protects no one, it only allows the one alone to go deeper into a state of fear and more confusion and when in the depths of fear it’s almost impossible to come out again at the other side.

Finally I just wanted to share this.

If you have read this far well this is the good bit. When you become who you truly are here’s the magic… you’ll finally attract what you truly want or… what you really need.

BE COME and allow what you NEED to come to you. THIS DOES happen. What you need at the time will arrive for you but you need to allow and don’t force anything, don’t search, don’t try and pull things to you, simply be at peace with yourself and watch what takes place I promise.

I know you might be thinking but Alan I am still alone? That is simple, you have not yet become at peace with yourself and you are not attracting the right mate to you that can give you what you need.

Does this mean you don’t see anyone now until the right one arrives? Not at all, get out, discover and see and feel how people really are, allow them to be themselves on dates you’ll be surprised what you discover.

In the meantime… have fun and head out on your voyage of discovery. A tip I can share with you is anything you have said no to in the past or in your life… go try it and see how it feels when you do. Like me, I think you’ll be surprised to discover another new part of you.

I hope this has helped you. Just a handful of things I have discovered during my own little period alone… A-LONE.

Alone but a truly exciting, enlightening, refreshing part of my life. It’ll be the same for you if you go back to YOU and find your NEEDS not wants.

It’s been tough. It’s been magic. It’s been discovery. It’s been a time to connect and discover. Looking back, I’ve loved it.

AND YOU … You’ll be fine, it really is all going to be fine.

Now you finally know who you are, continue to grow, continue you discover and watch the one you need come to you.

I hope this has helped.

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Dead Self

By Alan Forrest Smith | July 23, 2010

As I walked along the old railway in the distance I could see a figure sat in the shade to the left.

The closer I got the more detail I could see. It was a man, he was alone, he was sitting down, looking almost staring at the floor.

It was sunny yet he was sat in the shade. There was lots of free space yet he sat still, silent and unmoved at any visible level.

The closer I got the more I could feel the almost dark depressing side of the character. At this point I was around 10 feet away from him I looked at him to say good morning, I knew he could see me but remained still, unmoved sitting silent without a flinch as I walked by. He was in a wheelchair.

All I could feel is this mans…DEAD-SELF.

I kept on walking for another 10 feet but this guy was filling my head with thoughts of ‘is he ok?’.

I turned around and went back. I said…’excuse me, I hope you don’t mind me asking are you ok?’

He looked at me with water filled eyes and told me this story…

10 months ago I could walk up and down stairs, to the shops, play with my kids, play with my dogs and just be normal. Today I am half a man with no legs, no ability with nothing to give’

I have to say the conversation went on for around 30 minutes, we talked and cried together, it was nice. He never told me how he had lost his legs. I never asked. He never told me where he lived or what he does, I never asked. He never told me about his wife and family, I never asked.

What he did tell me was this.

‘I am worthless, worth nothing to no one, what is the point of being alive’

I asked him how old are his kids?

He told me 7 and 9 years old.

I asked how when they see you how do they react?

He told me they smile, laugh and ask him to race around the house on his new ‘racing car’ (wheelchair).

We went on so I asked him this question.

How do you think your children would cope if you were not here?
He replied’ utter devastation’

I said to him do you think it’s worthwhile being alive knowing that your existence makes your children’s lives fuller?

He cried as did I.

I held his hand just for a moment, got up, said goodbye and walked on.

I have to be honest here. I got to a point about half a mile up the old railway, went down the embankment and had a cry myself.

The question had been raised…’SELF WORTH’… what is it?

This man had clearly been through something he didn’t reveal to me. At the point of his life as we spoke he had lost his self worth or value of himself.

In other words… what is his value,, his contribution and how does he see it himself?

He had become encased in thoughts of EVERYONE thinks I am disabled and no good. The reality is they all loved him more than ever and he really was filling a part of their lives also.

So his mind and his reality were playing games with him.

When he is alone and goes into himself he gets lost in the confusion of thought. When he is with his kids, he reacts to their reaction and becomes happy though them.

Interesting don’t you think how the sense of self can overcome and overwhelm to a point of destruction?

Yet the reality is much different.

How about you?

How do you value yourself, and what is your sense of it?

When I say value I mean how much do you think you are worth? Lets say in pounds or dollars?

You could be at a place in your life where you put a low amount on it? You could be in a place where you put a high amount on it. Yet if I was to remove all the cash and asked you the same question again how would you explain your value?

Remember this is about your self value or sense of self. It’s not about what anyone thinks. If you know 100 people they all have an opinion of you right? Yet all of their opinions of you are not YOUR truth or your reality, how can they be?

So again what is your own sense of self? Your own self value? That is up to you to find out. When you do write it down and ask yourself about what you read is that actually true?

Going back the wheelchair walker.

I turned around and walked back along the old railway. It’s pretty flat so a wheelchair can be used on it. Who should, be coming towards me but the guy in the wheelchair. I smiled to myself from this distance he looked happy… I was looking forward to him catching up to me.

At this point he was round 20 feet away and I can tell you he had his head raised and a smile from one side of his face to another.

He shouted out… ‘Alan’

I smiled and said ‘hi again Tony’

He said to me…

Thank you so much for sitting and speaking with me, I’ll never forget it. He said you know the bridge up there with the river below?’ I said ‘yes’

He said today I came along here to kill myself by going over the old bridge into the river on my wheelchair but now I am racing home to see my kids smile. You made me wake up and realize my own worth to my kids’

I could hardly talk… I said ‘how about your value to you?’

He said one word… ‘PRICELESS’

Gave me a huge, huge smile and raced away after shaking my hand to meet his kids after school.

I have nothing more to write. It’s a short story that happened. Make your won conclusions but remember…

You are worth more than you can ever believe. Love your self, discover yourself BE your sense of self.

I’d love your feedback?

*~A.F.S.~*

Alan Forrest Smith

News Narcotics

By Alan Forrest Smith | July 15, 2010

Did you see it, read it, the news?

Hooked, addicted, news, abuser … this is the world of the News Narcotic!

I was in my village today where I live and a guy asked if I’d seen the news all week? I said ‘no’

He reply, ‘no are you serious you don’t know about this guy killing his ex-wife, shooting a policeman in the face hiding for days and then shooting himself live on TV in the head?’

‘No’ I replied. He looked at me as if I had just landed from another solar system on a day visit to Lymm!

The conversation ended. Then as I looked along the line EVERYONE was talking about this news incident. Even worse Jean (the till girl) would say to every single person at the checkout the same line…

‘did you see that man on the news shooting all of those people and then killing himself, Terrible wasn’t it, terrible’

I eventually got to the checkout and she repeated the same one liner to me. I replied to her…’are you enjoying the hot  weather?’ Jean replied… ‘at least it was good weather for that guy on the run and to shoot himself’

I thought, how can it ever be good weather to shoot yourself? Has Jean gone crazy?  Has the people in the shop been taken over by some insidious invisible airborne virus?

When I got outside I then could see the same story on billboards, on a TV across the road in an electronics window and as I walked past people up the street I could easily hear how they were all talking about the same subject.

This is the effect of News Narcotic.

Think about this.

You go to bed at night and your brain and body refreshes itself from all the dirt and grime from the day. Even the mental grime from the news, media and more.

Then in the morning we are programmed to… listen to the news… in our home, in our car, from a newspaper, in the line at the shops, one person to another… chat, chat, chat!

Does that have an effect on mankind? Does that have an effect on YOU?

You bet it does.

Think about this.

You drink tea or coffee? You drink coke? They are caffeine loaded. Now I know you don’t need big brother me to tell you that but let think about this.

Each day first thing in the morning, several times in the day, in the evenings we load up with our drinks, our favorite drinks right? Now we do it on autopilot. We don’t think about it because our body needs it. Our body is asking us, it’s telling, demanding of us we top up. If we don’t follow the subliminal demands… we suffer headaches etc.

So think about this.

Your body, my body reacts and acts in ways not even scientists understand. What we do know and they do know is what we ingest mentally and physically has an effect on our body.

So when we wake up our news addiction asks us to tune and find out. We wake, switch on tune in and top up. Why? Because that’s what we are conditioned to do. Go to any news stand where I live on a weekend in particular and you’ll see line after line after line after line of people walking out topping up on the news.

The problem with this is this…

Science has proved humans are affected at a cellular level by external happenings.

When we all tune into something bad it reduces the wavelength or the force or the power or the energy we work at. In other words we under perform at almost every level.

When we tune into good, we over perform and I think the best recent example is the HIGH of the World Cup in South Africa. A nation come together like never before to celebrate the good of sport and people coming together. They read it. They slept it. The worked it. The ate it. It transformed that nation in months. Incredible example of how GOOD vibrations can transform.

But when we focus on the bad stuff like the news, like celebrity lifestyles, like soap operas, like TV trash, like daily news on the hour, from the hour we are led into a dark alley on nowhere and no growth for ourselves as people.

In the UK we have a TV show called Eastenders. From start to finish it is manafactured human misery and drama. Death, divorce, pain, suffering, tears and low, low feeling. Yet a third of the UK population watch it. You can hear people talking and being part of the life of the characters. They talk as if they are real. ‘Did you see what happend to Pauline last night?’ … yet Pauline doesn’t exist, she is fantasty created by a writer. This fantasty becomes a reality and is aborbed into the human.

Actually… terrifying when you think about this!

In fact this negative food holds mankind in a state of fear. When in a state of fear mankind will ALWAYS look to be led and NOT lead himself.

So man when at that level is hooked, looking and asking for a leader at an invisible level.

Interesting because everyman has the ability to lead himself in or out of everything but it depends on how tuned in he/she is to themselves.

The more we unplug from the daily happenings, newsreel, endless gossip about his life, her life, their life and the more we focus on who and what we are as human BE-INs the more we unleash the creator, the genius, the human in us.

Are you addicted? Are you hooked on News Narcotics?

There is always a way out for you. There are always for you to grow and expand yourself, to get strong, be stronger, thrive and survive.

It’s up to you.

Enjoy your adventure.

Do you have an opinion on this? I’d love to hear you share it.

Adulterous Bitch?

By Alan Forrest Smith | July 9, 2010

Music Teacher and Married Mother of 5 Runs off With 25 Year Old Music Student

Adulterous Bitch!

Shocking right but true. Or is it?

Just a few doors away from me lives a lady of 74 years old.

Just yesterday as I was putting out some washing to dry I heard a voice shout ‘Alan, Alan’

I went to the path to see this frail, unstable woman calling me. It was my neighbor Hilary.

She wanted to talk. Honestly I was busy yet I knew she wanted some time so I sat down and listened.

I asked how she was? She has got shingles and clearly lost a lot of weight. I asked her… ‘where is Roger?’. Roger is her husband.

She replied…

‘we are still deeply in love you know from the day we met’

Interesting I thought as I never asked her anything like that but she still offered to tell me that.

I smiled, she smiled, she then told me her story.

She said…

‘There’s a big age gap you know. I am 21 years older than him. I am now 74 and he is 53′.

I sat in silence and listened.

‘Yes we met when he was at college. He was just 23 and I was 44, married with 5 children’

We were in love right away. Can you imagine the scandal? It’s always ok for an older man to be with a younger woman but when an older woman is with a younger man it’s a scandal.’

I just smiled and sat there in the sun soaking up the story.

She lifted her small thin arm to her mouth. Took the remaining half a cigarette from a time earlier in the day, put it to her mouth, lit it and carried on.

Looking back it was a crazy time. All the town were in uproar. My husband followed us for years and years. My children were devastated, his parents went absolutely crazy over it and we spent years at war with everyone and anyone. It was a very hard time’

I asked her one question… ‘what got you through it’

She replied ‘love’

I smiled at her and she said…

Yes… Just pure love, not lust or sex just a deep understanding of each other at every level.

We locked ourselves away, loved each other and created music’

She then went on to tell me another story of how she sold over 60,000 copies of her Celtic Music CD that they had created in their bedroom studio just 3 doors away from my home. Turns out she plays almost anything with strings, he is a genius violinist and they are wonderfully happy till this day in love.

She smiled, told me about her illness and then had another cigarette. She looked at me in the eye and said…

‘Don’t worry Alan, I know, it’ll all be fine’

She knows I’m divorced. She knows I have 4 kids. She knows I have had love and lost love.

She smiled, held my hand and went back into her home.

I walked back into my own home totally inspired by her story and I want to tell you why.

This lady had done something most young people haven’t done.Lived and lived to tell her story.

She has been through the eye of the storm at many levels and survived. She is a survivor of LIFE and a lover in the truest sense.

Both her and her lover (they have never married) still adore each other to this day. The age gap is painfully obvious at the physical level yet to see them together it would be easy to judge what or who they are.

Have you ever done that? Seen something, someone and made a call of some kind in your mind about them. IF you get the chance to know them, they weren’t what you thought they were in fact they were the absolute opposite to what you expected.

Yet based on your conditioning, based on your own measurement of right and wrong you made a judgment.

Yet think about this; in life you are really only responsible for one person… YOU.

And when faced with the truth of YOU most of us back away, go into denial, brush everything over with huge helping of Ego.

Why is that?

Because of fear. Fear of who? Fear of what others will think. So because we fear the opinions of others we develop and create false realities.

Think about this for my neighbor all those years ago. She told me people were saying she is a pervert, adulteress and child snatcher because of what she did.

The reality was she was desperately unhappy and because of that she decided to leave her husband, forsake her kids for a while and jump into the fire with a younger man that she loved and he loved her.

Was that wrong?

We could say yes but who’s level or standard do we Measure it against? The standards of others. Standards of God. Standards of truth?

And the simple truth is we live in a world where the talk, the gossip, the lives of others have taken on more meaning than our own.

Wherever you go you will hear of others talking about others. Judging, condemning, putting someones life right without ever bothering to look at their own.

And here’s what I learned.

Give time to those that need your time. Honestly I couldn’t be bothered but after 30 minutes of listening I was truly glad I did listen.

Hold back from judging and listen to the whole story. When you really look at the bigger picture its easy to see both sides.

Remove yourself from their life. You can only judge them if you try and put them into your shoes, your mind, your thoughts. Yet why would you do that if you would hate someone else to think of you in that way?

The 74 year old lady next door is happy. She is in love. Her man is happy. He’s clearly in love. They have dedicated themselves to each other since the first day despite all the problems they encountered.

Her children love her and are around all the time. Her children love him. Time healed everything. It’s fine for them.

You know…

The doorway to happiness is what we create. The life we need to create our happiness is the life we create. When we think, think, think about what we want in life, it appears, the laws of attraction whether we know them are not kick into action and make it happen.

But Ultimately… it’s up to us, it’s up to YOU.

I’d love to know what you thinking? Let me know.

Bastard Genius

By Alan Forrest Smith | July 7, 2010

How is it a Bastard can become one of the most creative minds in history?

Let me explain and also show you how knowing this could change the way you think and feel.

When born in April 15th 1452 his father took him away to live with him while his mother married another man eventually giving birth to another 17 siblings.

Because the child was a ‘bastard’ born outside of marriage this instantly gave him the handicap of being disqualified from education by the Church.

This meant if he was to learn… he would have to teach himself. So he went about teaching himself to write. Yet his technique was unusual to say the least. As he had never had formal education of any sort his writing to a form of writing from right to left in a nation where like the English all wrote from left to right.

Successful at writing his life then took on a voyage of discovery and achievement. This child was Leonardo Davinci.

Painter, artist, inventor, thinker and more. The man was clearly a genius. I was just wonder why?

When you look at what took place with him the moment was when society rejected him because he was a bastard. This cut him off from mainstream from birth.

Once cut off if he wanted to learn more about anything he would have to do it alone.

Isn’t that interesting.

The man was a recognized genius at EVERYTHING he did. At one point Davinci was even enlisted to make war machines and better more effective weapons. Hard to believe it was the same man that painted the last supper!

I believe there is a lesson here, a very powerful lesson for the way we our lives and grow as a human being.

Davinci had the handicap or blessing of missing out on mainstream education.

This kicked his brain and mind into gear. He was known for going into nature and spending hours and days studying the workings of just about everything. This ignited his inner genius to come slowly to the surface and create the genius he finally became.

It appears he never forced it, he followed his natural built in nature to discover everything. Just look how he turned out.

Interesting right, he was a dreamer. He dreamed of things, making things, finding out things, developing and chasing his dreams.

Yes probably most of your life you have been told to stop dreaming, stop being a fantasist, stop being unrealistic.

In those moments you are told that you maybe shrunk back… back to what most call reality yet that reality is based on what the mainstream teach us.

Get a good education. Get a good job. Get promotion. Get a good car. Get a good house (detached is best). Get a good husband and wife. Get a good pension. Have a good life and maybe have an extra holiday on the beach of you behave well or save enough. Oh yes don’t forget… always  try and get a car better than your neighbors!

Sound familiar?
Have you been there?
Does it feel like your going there?

You know it’s never tool ate to make massive changes in your life. It’s never too late to discover, uncover and recover your hidden genius. You do, you still have it despite what you might have been told.

Don’t dream
Don’t plan.
You can’t do it.
That’s ridiculous.
It’ll fail.

You’ve heard that right?

When people say that to you it’s simply THEM reflecting themselves, their fears, their traits, their patterns onto you.

This is where you need to dig deep and get inside yourself.
This is the moment when you must let go, spend time alone within yourself.
DE-surround yourself with those of a much more conditioned and rigid way of thinking.

Awaken all possibilities that you can be more, you can be bigger and realize your own potential.

It’s easier than you might be thinking. You might have to strip away old ways, old thinking and then refill those gaps with new thoughts. That’s fine. That’s good.

But …

You should be aware you BE-COME what you feed yourself mentally and physically of course.

Put TV, and Media rubbish into your mind… that’s is what you vessel becomes just another me-too, same as human being that has never reached their own potential and never will.

Lets go back to Davinci for a second.

He would vanish into nature. See the color of everything. Hear the noise of everything. See the shape of everything… he absorbed himself in reality.

Reality TV is NOT reality. Its dream scape in transmission designed to hold mankind in a dreamlike state.

Food and hypnosis for the masses.

So how about you? How about today? What can you do to recover, reveal and release your inner genius?

Please share.

Alan Forrest Smith

*~A.F.S.~*

DivineDelusionDeception?

By Alan Forrest Smith | March 9, 2010

Have you noticed…

God for cash, God for love, God for living, real God, no God, I’m God, Your God and… this is just an observation but…

I met this lady.

She was wonderful. We went for a long walk in a long open space and she spoke to me in a gentle kind manner about how her life has been revealed, opened and guided.

She used to believe in God.
Now she believes in herself as a god.

She used to rely on God.
Now she relies on herself as a godlike being.

She used to pray to God.
Now she chants endless repetitions about how she has arrived to save the World.

Now this is JUST AN OBSERVATION… but is there more and more of these people coming out of the woodwork?

She had given up everything.

Her car, her home, her husband, her regular life. She was now flat broke and had no plans. I asked her why? She replied because the Universe has plans for her, big, huge plans. The Universe will bring them to her at the right time. All she has to do is wait for the universe.

I said… is that realistic? She said… I have no expectations, no thoughts, the universe works alone and deliver when ready.

I must admit my brain was working overtime at this point.

Here was a beautiful young woman that had given away everything, walked away from everything. She must have needs. I asked her… what about your needs… she said I no longer need anything. I said anything, she replied yes anything.

Now I don’t know about you.

I need Tea.
I need gadgets.
I need my guitar.
I need my lover.
I need carrot cake.
I need to be close to Scotland.
I need my kids.

Why?

I just do, maybe I need therapy also… ;-)

But I do know I really have needs.

I have needs and wouldn’t give them up for anything, anyone, anytime soon.

I asked her what all the changes?

She told me about this big seminar she had been to. Her eyes had been opened. She was almost convulsing on the floor at the thought of her new enlightened state during this event. Like Saul on the donkey… her eyes had been opened, the scales had fallen off, she could now see where she was once blind.

She got the manual.
She went on the course and the next course and the next course and was shown how to find herself amongst the mass of mankind.

She discovered that she had a purpose and the purpose was to save mankind… SOMEHOW?
She discovered that nothing else mattered only her own self fulfillment
She discovered that God was now just part of the Universe and now the universe should be asked for all things.
She discovered a lot.

But you know what I observed?

A woman completely lost, lonely at home with an animal or two, living a mythical life where nothing leads to nowhere.

A woman that had become an evangelist for the new age faiths being spread from stages all over the planet.

She like countless others is broke, lonely, sad and has nothing in life apart from a shelf full of manuals, self- help DVDs and a stack of credit cards bills she’s unable to pay this month or any month in fact.

What the hell is going on?

I have just come back from the wonderful Dam walk. This is a lake that goes around a dam near where I live.

I enjoyed every moment being in the 3rd dimension. When I say 3rd dimension, this is real now, this is where my senses are engaged, my sight, my hearing, the nerves endings on my skin are all engaged. I can taste, smell everything. Small bird moves in the corner of my eye, my body is quick enough to see, hear, sense it and move around fast enough to be able to take a photo, this is the 3rd dimension.

Yet there is an invisible dimension, some call the 4th or even the 5th. There are also an awakened people coming to new life and seeing this new dimension. These are maybe like you, like me, like others that want more from life.

Yet sadly in business there are also those that are becoming aware of this 4th dimension and willing to use, abuse and manipulate if for hard cash.

Look can I give you my take on this?

If your life sucks, if it’s crap, if you are not happy, if it is killing you, draining you, exhausting you… CHANGE IT.

But when you are in that place you are hungry and eager for change. Yet you are weakened by what is taking place, physically and mentally exhausted by the drudgery of your life.

So when something drops in front of your eyes that is exciting, new, fresh, invigorating and at the same time you are swept along by the energy of the mass of people… you are like a hungry fish snapping at the bait and BANG… you are in.

Are you brain-washed? Not at all. Brainwashing is when you remove all the crap from your brain and start to add new thinking, new thoughts that make you happier long term.

This is more like brain toxin being injected into the brain.

Think about it.

You arrive feeling crap.

You leave feeling amazing.

You pay for everything on offer.

Your life two years down the line if solitary, lonely and devoid of any reality.

Why?

You were told by another human being that this is the way… follow it.

I have seen this in action. I once saw a girl sign up for a ONE HUNDRED THOUSAND POUND mentor course. The course and the mentor promised to show those that bought into it THE WAY, their life purpose, their key to success, their divine path. HONESTLY!

But think about it … is that the way the Universe or even God work?

And what is taking place here is there are those that are now using 4th dimension (spiritual paths) to make heaps and heaps of cash in the process!

THEY WILL fall flat on their faces. Truth always overcomes as we are seeing in the case of James Arthur Ray right now.

This 4th dimension twist is leaving many, many, many totally broke yet they (and the girl above) still held tight their chosen  messianic saviors mentors despite the fact they break them completely!

Interesting times, interesting thoughts, interesting observations.

This really is a God delusion at a very deep level. It’s growing and growing fast. What I do find interesting is that at the same time the illusionists that pump out this brain filth and destroy lives in the process will also vanish like the morning mists.

They might make their cash promising millions a new way, a new life, a new direction yet at the same to they create a false reliance on ‘NOTHING’.

Are you enjoying life in the 3rd dimension? Are you interested in life in the 4th dimension?

Be careful but be true to yourself always.

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The Profit Prophets

By Alan Forrest Smith | January 11, 2010

4 Years ago Ste left his job because of the Profit Prophet’s.

He had a great home, a great car, a great wife and kids. Not anymore, 4 years ago Ste left his job.

Ste was in a rut. His job meant he woke at 6-30am, left his home at 7-15am, spent the whole day watching a clock, looking and waiting and praying for the end of the day to arrive. When it did, he got back in the car that was costing him a fortune every month, drove home to his wife, his two kids and his ideal home. He arrived home around 7pm, relaxed, got ready for bed and did it all over again.

Until one day Ste got an email.

The email promised the lifestyle he had always wanted.

The car, the holidays, the travel, the big house and work at home as much or as little as you liked.

It was exactly what Ste wanted in his life. He ordered the course and made a start.

After just 3 months he told his wife that he wanted to leave his job of 22 years and do this full-time. She asked him but how much are you making now? His reply was nothing but I can make it work.

They talked, they rowed, they sulked, they did everything. She was dead-set against him doing this. He had worked out that if he left his job it would give him enough cash over 7 months to make it all happen.

He left his job.

Ste worked and worked and worked and worked. More hours than ever before but he loved it! In one week alone he did over 16 hours each day, never saw his kids and only saw wife for 10 mins.

This went on for months.

Over the next 7 months Ste had made exactly NOTHING from his new ventures.

It got worse, not only has Ste made nothing he had also bought and paid for more self-help, how-to course in the meantime. The Profit Prophets had been busy catching him, preaching to him, directing and persuading him to buy, buy, buy!

Future profits would be promised by the Prophets. The profits never arrived.

18 months had passed. Ste was BROKE and his wife had seen enough. She left, the kids went with her, Ste lost his home, he lost everything.

Sadly all familiar story of those being persuaded by the Profit Prophets!

And with a new year comes along a whole host of messages about how the new year can be the new you and how the new year will change your life and how the new year is your new opportunity to rebuild everything. It’s the busy time for the Profit Prophets and YES … there will be those that buy, buy, buy. Why? Because not only are they on the same wavelength of the false prophets of profit but they see the NEXT-NEW-THING as their own personal salvation from where they are right now.

And it’s self perpetuating and all encompassing because once in the cycle of the profit prophets it can be very hard to get out.

So what’s the answer? Is it possible just because it’s a new year that all will be different and change? Yes it’s possible but hardly possible. Why?

My mum went for help a million times to try and stop smoking. They gave her a date and time and system to follow. She never stopped. One day just over a year ago she woke up and said "I am stopping smoking". She has never smoked since.

That’s no different to what the Profit Prophets will do and say to you. They will tell, tell, tell you but the reality is if you have no made a change inside of yourself, if you are just listening to the same old stuff tweaked for your ears … nothing will happen.

Just because it’s new year will mean ZERO to you. The Profit Prophets know that, they get that but they also understand you are tuned into the world and it’s ways.

They know that because it’s new year you will also be thinking about changes. Sadly those changes rarely if ever last.

Ste fell for the Profit Prophets and lost everything.

Remember… the change is YOU, it’s in you, it’s something that cannot be taken from a manual or step by step guide.

Beware the Profit Prophets are busy right now, they are looking to devour you, every last penny!

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The Logical Liar

By Alan Forrest Smith | January 4, 2010


Susan makes all her decisions on logic, pure logic, always with no exceptions.

Her teachers told her to think about it. Her parents would tell her to give it much thought. Her peers would say think it over and then decide.

Yet what Susan had been discovering in her life that there had been lots of times when her logical, well thought out decision had caused her lots of pain, regret and confusion.

Susan was faced with another choice. It was a decision to move home from a place she loved to a new place.

Logic kept telling her it be closer to work, it’ll be better for promotion, it’ll make her stronger, it won’t take long to make new friends.

When faced with the choice her heart and body said ‘NO’ in a split second yet … her logic kicked in again.

Her friends and family gave her the usual advice and Susan decided to really think this one through.

The thought of moving made her feel sick. The feeling of a new area made her feel scared. The dread of being away from friends would keep her awake all night long yet her logic, her mind kept singing the same old song of ‘MOVE’ … it’s logical.

Susan’s heart and body and spirit told her NO. Her logic told her yes. Susan’s life and the lives of those around her have always taken logic as the first step forward.

This time, again, Susan followed logic. Despite the inner pain she felt she moved home and after just 6 days was on the phone crying to everyone telling them how unhappy she was there.

Six months later, six months of pain, six months of heartbreak Susan moved back to the place that gave her what her body needed to be happy.

She was home.

So why is it so many of us do things using logic when even the thought of doing them makes us feel almost sick?

It’s actually very simple.

In modern times we are mostly no longer in touch with ourselves, we are no longer aware or in touch with the power that we have inside of us.

Let me give you an example.

When I had the unique chance of going into the Amazon to visit tribal Indians there it very quickly became apparent that the Indians are very different to any average human being we could meet anywhere right now.

They have NO SENSE of logic.

The decisions they make are based on how the feel and sense things. They use their sense in line with their spirit to make choices. If the outcome looks bad or FEELS bad to their body and unsettling to their spirit… THEY DON’T do it.

Logic doesn’t even come into it.

So it’s interesting that in modern times we are taught always to make the logical choice even when that choice gives us pain after pain after pain.

When the reality is the pain you feel after making a choice based on logic is actually your ‘being’ telling you… DON’T DO IT… or face the pain.

That pain is our human spirit becoming unsettled and damaged by logic.

So the obvious argument could be ‘but we need logic to measure things and make them fit’ and yes we do. But there are times when logic won’t serve us as humans and you will know that by how you FEEL.

So the times that we go beyond how we feel are the times when we are no longer in touch with our real selves but are being driven by our ego. Our ego likes us to feel good, feel important, feel superior, feel special yet to the REAL human that is touch with themselves, the ones that have learned how to BE and how to FEEL are the ones that are no longer affected by the decisions offered by logic.

Logic is a liar, can be a liar and will continue to be a liar. Why? Because logic is a set of rules set by who? Yes they are precepts and guides set by other people. They set these guides on the way they felt. yet they way they feel is probably nothing like the way you would feel over the same matter.

In other words we have been conditioned into believing that logic will always work better for us.

It’s clear that a lot of logic pains us.

Logic … is a LIAR!

Cult of Significance

By Alan Forrest Smith | December 30, 2009




The cult of significance has spread like a bubonic plague amongst mankind even more so over the past 10 years and especially with the rise and rise and rise on the internet.

 

Now anyone, anywhere, anytime can be famous.

 

People are driven messages into their minds about how important they are, how special they are, how they are here for a bigger purpose and to release mankind from one thing or another.

 

This is the Cult of Significance.

 

I’m on TV… I’m significant.

 

I’m on the stage … I’m significant.

 

I’m on a website … I’m significant.

 

People look up to me … I’m significant.

 

And so on and on. But the problem is this…this insidious cult is focused mainly on one thing and one thing only… THEM! The individual, no more, no less.

 

Look how politicians have changed. I’m old enough now to be able to look back over the years and see how they are gigantically different to how they used to be.

 

Decades ago a politician would be a person with huge life experience that then dedicated himself or herself to the SERVICE of the public.

 

They would take their massive experience and go into public office to share their life wealth for the better good. This was built around serving the public, serving the country, swerving a bigger good, a better picture. Of course not all were like that but a good chunk hung on to that ideology. Do you think politicians have your greater good in mind today?

 

Of course not because they too are now absorbed in the Cult of Significance. THEMSELVES.

 

I mean how can a guy that has no life experience, just spend so many years in university, have one or two small time jobs and then suddenly be of great value to the community? Doesn’t make sense does it and lets be honest here, you can feel their inner motive coming through.

 

And as I have spoken all over the planet at different places, met hundreds of thousands of people, spoken to  and talked to people time and time again I meet people that are self absorbed into the cult of significance. It’s not their fault!

 

They will tell me how special they feel, how important they must become, how they can and will do great things in their lives yet unlike public servants from the past they take their experiences, their ideologies from Google, blogs and wiki or self proclaimed gurus.

 

Trustworthy? Reliable?

 

No wonder I have yet to meet one of these types in a settled life situation. They carry the same traits of dreams with no foundations, concepts with no experience and all usually based around the cult of significance. THEM.

 

Am I saying your significance is unimportant? Not at all, what I am saying is the real meaning to happiness and life is not in self serving of self but in giving as much as we possibly can.

 

I am not condemning anyone here, I am simply saying the planet is going through huge changes and being wrapped up in the Cult of Significance will silence you. On average everyday 100,000 words pass before your eyes built into the 8,000 ads that are fed to you by a greedy manipulative world.

 

This has created vibrationally distorted views and visions fed and supported by so named reality TV show where someone that is no one with lower level of vibrational output (of a mouse) affect the greater mass of mankind.

 

Famous for becoming infamous, Lines and line of people being asked by the presenter what do they want from life? The answer is always the same… “I just want to be famous”

 

The bigger picture leaves us with a society that ogles, goggles and pursues the mind of emptiness as we await them to say something that could possibly be important.

 

Most base their happiness on a future event of some kind. More money, better relationship etc.

 

I mean … if they can be famous for doing nothing, so can I say the masses right?

 

This does affect you whether you feel it does or does not.

 

This world is changing, it has to.

 

The Cult leaders of the significance cult will be swept away in the sea of change. It’ll no longer be enough for someone to say… “I am the way” … new kinds of service and transforming societies are coming.

 

But how about you? How does this make you feel?

 

Ghandi is a fantastic example of gaining significance through his good works. He never spent day after day proclaiming his greatness and fleecing the masses in the process. He took his service of man to a vibrational level that actually made tsunami like changes on  the planet.

 

And even today, the good neighbour that loves and adores everyone. She helps, she speaks, she lifts, she cries, she does all she can to make sure those around her are touched by her love. She asks for nothing and gets nothing in return. SERVICE in action.

 

The old style cult of significance will be over shadowed by the silent lovers of creativity, where the mind meets the body and they understand how to FEEL their way through life.

 

The cult of significance never felt. It was all about being a follower, being and evangelist for the ideas of another.

 

The effect of this cult is devastation destruction and misery. Yet on the surface those affected but this cult play a good game. They look happy, they appear ready and willing. They appear to be giving for the greater good of mankind.

 

Yet they are mostly imprisoned in their own thoughts that have been transferred to them by the repeatist behaviours and conditioning of others.

 

This is an endless cycle designed only to hold those in its grip forever.

 

You are the change for you, you can eat your way out of the Cult of Significance.

 

Let me be clear here… YOU ARE significant. You are special and you can have as much significance as you need in your life to create and experience the happiness you desire.

 

But right now this might sound like more directions, more rules, more step by step for you being happy.

 

It isn’t, it’s simply my way of communicating everything I have seen over the years with the Cult of Significance.

 

Try this, it’ll help.

 

  • Unplug for a while and gather your thoughts.
  • Avoid the thinking of others.
  • Meditate and think deeply about you and your life.
  • Give yourself realistic challenges that you never usually do.
  • Change your thought patterns.
  • Learn from the past by weighing up the time spend and the results from your efforts.
  • Be honest and ask yourself… has this cult held me back, held me still or have I really grown from it?

 

The cult wants you to stay forever.

 

It wants to carry on pushing and promoting it STUFF to you and it will tell you everything you need to hear in the moment.

 

And as we face another year are you falling into repeated patterns, the ways of the conditioned?

 

Have you set into motion a new years resolution along with the rest of mankind with their fatally flawed premise of salvation because of a list of resolves that are rarely fulfilled?

 

Just remember this is all about your life, where you are and where you want to be. Do all you can to swerve, help and love others. Build your own personal value within yourself and this will bring you more significance, more attraction that you could ever wish for.

 

Does this help you? Have you been stung by the Cult of Significance? I’d love to hear your feedback.

 

Alan

 

Law of Resolution

By Alan Forrest Smith | December 22, 2009

19 years ago on New Years Eve Dave was with his ex-wife, he made a promise to her, a new years resolution, his RESOLVE to her that things would change, he would change.

Life would get better, cash would get easier, life would get clearer. Each new year Dave entered started well and then quickly went back to his old place.

After 10 years of marriage his wife told him … change or this marriage is over.

So again for the next 5 New Years Eves Dave went over the same ritual, the same words, the same promise that clearly weren’t going to be fulfilled.

When he said his resolve, he meant it, kind of, but it was never really going to happen.

19 Years later Dave is alone wondering what went wrong. He says… next year will be different.

Why all the fuss on New Years Eve then?

New years day has it’s modern day invention as far back as 153 B.C. The whole thing was dedicated to the Mythical Roman King Janus.

Janus had to faces. One looked back, the other looked forward.

The face that looked back was to look over the previous year gone and extend forgiveness to their enemies.

The other face was to look forward … probably to the day when they would slaughter their enemies (lol).

And most of the time history and Dave above has shown New Years Resolutions aren’t worth the paper, the air they are spoken into.

Why is that?

Change begins with you and unless you know who you are a date, a promise, a thought won’t mean anything.

When we go through change on mass, ie, New Years Eve, change cannot take place within us. Because when we run with the pack, go on mass, follow the crowd we share the same vibrational field as them. Think about this carefully … vibrations can share in an instant, these vibrations can literally help or hinder you.

Here’s an example of how vibration of others or the masses can affect you.

I think back to the death in the UK of princess Diana. The mood of many changed in an instant. People were crying, calling each other, emailing each other, shocked, hurt devastated. The TV in the UK was back-to-back reports of what took place, how it took place and how it could be different and so on.

None of these people even knew her yet, it appeared that almost all of the nation … apart from the mighty ones … became hypnotized into the same vibrational field as the masses.

Think about these resolutions or resolves you might make.

Are you making them because you want to, they are from the heart, they are part of your deeper more conscious being or … are you doing it because it’s new years eve and that is what you are supposed to do?

And if you do it on News Years Eve… you make the promise in a lower vibrational frequency that maybe you could in another time.

Can you see how the effect of the masses can affect you direct?

So what about Dave above, what went wrong?

Dave like all of us has his own Janus characteristics.

He has the ability to look back and look forward.

Now he can look back at the things he doesn’t like and say I am going to change but is he asking himself the WHY do these things I don’t like keep coming into my life?

Dave needs to…

Look deeply into himself
Find the origin of the problems he might have
Discover the solutions
Connect to his greater source
Take time to reflect

In other words… be as honest as he can be with himself.

Dave was attracting his life that’s for sure. He was stuck in his drama, routine and habits of failing.

The few words, the handwritten notes for New Year meant nothing. They didn’t work.

How about you?

Do you need a set day, time, moment to RESOLVE your stuff?

Maybe but here is the thing … unless YOU change, nothing will change.

That change doesn’t just start with habits, rituals, routines, it starts inside of you, the part no one can see, no one can share, no one can be part of because the change has to be about you.

To make it work you can try this.

Make the first change inside your heart, your head, your deepest parts. That’s the moment when you say I have ahd enough.

Write down the changes you are a wanting in your life. Be specific but don’t make them unbelievable.

Print something on paper that reflects that change. This bit is important for you. As it triggers the resolve continually.

Write a note on the back of the paper confirming this is what you need in your life. Thsi is your affirmation that you are commited.

Each day in the morning, in the middle of the day at night before bed, secretly, privately go over your pictures, your words and embed them into your heart.

Here is the thing.

When you commit to change, change comes to you. You don’t have to change it yourself on the outside, it’s the inside where your changes are made. 

And …

It’s interesting a lot of people will talk about their new found and filed promises, they share them with everyone and anyone willing to listen, to share an ear in that moment. This will weaken your promise to yourself, your request for transformation. This is change based only on the moment that someone says ‘well done’ in other words… in the moment you share your RESOLVES to others you feel the power of significance in your life, the pat on the head that says well done. Sadly that vanishes.

2010 what is it going to bring for you then?

It can bring whatever you want.
You can attract anything into your life you want to attract.
It can be a time when you do look back and make inner resolves over past issues.

Dave spent 19 years making resolutions. Not one resolve stood the test of time.

Ultimately, it’s up to you.

Let me know what you think or any resolve expereinces you have had.


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